The Children’s Bill of Rights (in divorcing/divorced families)

In my work as a Guardian ad Litem (representing the best interests of abused and neglected children), I have always sent this to the parents at the beginning of the case.


  • The right not to be asked to “choose sides” between their parents.
  • The right not to be told the details of a bitter, nasty divorce.
  • The right not to be told “bad things” about the other parent’s personality or character.
  • The right to privacy when talking to either parent on the phone.
  • The right not to be cross-examined by one parent after visiting or talking with the other.
  • The right not to be asked by one parent to tell the other parent untruths.
  • The right not to be used as a confidant regarding the divorce proceedings by one parent or another.
  • The right to express feelings, whatever those feelings may be.
  • The right to choose not to express certain feelings.
  • The right to be protected from parental warfare.
  • The right not to be made to feel guilty about loving both parents.

This Children’s Bill of Rights was developed by a member of the Utah judiciary.